I thought boys become friendly and act nicely to girls they like. Yet I heard that boys sometimes react funny to a crush by simply avoiding her unintentionally.
Have you ever experienced that you feel you are somehow avoided by him and don’t know why?
It might be that he likes you.
Yes, it is very confusing.
I can give you some hints to make out what he really thinks about you. 😉
Today’s theme is “Tips to know if he likes you or just being a jerk.”
He kept on avoiding you.
Did you know that there is a chance he wishes to get close to you despite of his behavior. Then how do you know whether he likes or dislikes you when he kept on avoiding.
There are 5 factors which you should look at to find out.
A.He is very kind when you are alone with him.
B.He is very cold or mean to you in front of other people.
C.He is always around you (in close distance) when you realize
D.He goes away when you come close to him.
E.He comes close to you once in a while.
Important factors to note are A. and E.
If he is behaving either of two or both then there is a chance that he likes you. If none were the case then he probably dislikes you. So forget about him. It will not do any good to get involved in him.
The behavior as such “He Likes You But Kept Avoiding You” is very common among teenagers but you can also see similar act among guys in ages 20 s and 30 s. The older you get the harder it becomes to convey true feelings because you have higher self-esteem and don’t want to get ashamed by showing honest feelings.
“He Likes You But Kept Avoiding You” : What is behind ?
■He does not want to reveal his real feelings
Behind this , he thinks it is embarrassing to show his real feelings. Because he likes you very much he feels that he may behave awkward and unnatural in front of you. For him it is intolerably embarrassing especially within a friend gathering. He tries to hide his feeling so that he could act normally. It turns out that he treats you very cold and you feel confused . It happens to men who have very high self-esteem. He hates to be teased by friends or cared about on this issue, namely romance. In my opinion, I think things work better when he shows true feelings anyway. 😉
■He does not have enough experience in love so that he is not confident in starting new love relationship.
It is likely that he does not have much experience in romances in the past and does not know how to react to the girl he likes. He isn’t sure what to do to attract girl he likes so he avoids make any contact with her so that he could calm himself down. Such a coward , who can never go for broke!!
■Afraid of being turned down.
He is the type who does not get close to the girl he likes because he is so afraid that she turns him down. He always thinks negatively. He does not take initiative in starting relationship. Yet he wants to tease you. He glances at you, talks to you and say something mean to you and so forth. He bothers you very much. And you feel mixed up. In such case it is most probable that he has gone through bad experiences sometime in the past in love relationship. He is doubtful about happy love relationship and afraid of being hurt again if he steps out with you.
■He may be playing gimmick game
A very few case is that he is playing game, he switches two different characters. He treats you cold in front of other people but very sweet when he is with you. He may be playing gimmick.
How to Cope With:
You will be feeling sad if the man who kept avoiding you happens to be the man you like. Moreover it is heart aching if he says something mean to you or flirts with other girls in front of you. How do you cope with such situation. Let’S stop him avoiding you and turn the wheel to make him ask you go out.
I will show you how. 😉
■Make sad faces :'(
He will not stop avoiding you if you keep reacting mature and laugh away his childish manner.
The reason he acts so childish is because he is not confident. Though it is not his intention to make you feel sad. If he still teases you why not show that you are very hurt by making gloomy face. By then he should realize that his behavior is actually hurting you and by then he would know it is clever to stop acting like a child.
■Get close to him as much as you can
If you don’t care about what others would think, do get close to him as much as you can. Although he talks to you coldly in the friend gathering he should not feel bad when you come close to you if he likes you. You corner him and flirt and tell him that you like him very much. If he has been “avoiding the favorite person” , it means that he is too shy to talk to you showing his true feelings. By telling him that you like him , he becomes confident enough to ask you to go out with him.
■a Coldness for a Coldness
It is rather risky but if he treats you coldly, treat him coldly. Just as the laws the Code of Hammurabi emphasis on “an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth”, why not try “a coldness for a coldness.” If he decides on leaving you then the relationship meant no more than that. End of it!! If he comes back to you then do accept him with hug and smile. Both of you would feel more intimate and comfortable for sure.
Summery
I hope it helps you in someway to figure out what he has in mind.
In my opinion, it won’t do any better to your relationship if he keeps on acting childish and treats you coldly even if he likes you. Indeed it is not polite thing to do. Avoiding and treating coldly put you down but do not do any harm to his feelings as a matter of fact. He may say “you should read my feeling behind “. But forget it!! He is demanding you too much. It is not easy to read feelings of my family. How would anybody know what he thinks without expressing in words or at least in gesture. He is not qualified to love you anyway, seriously !!!
I really feel like blowing my top!!!
Original text by Nyan-masa.
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